Hey peeps, and welcome to another Project Unicorn blog!
Today, I want to share with you the story of how I proposed to my wife. It was such a typical example of our relationship and it formed part of my wedding speech.
It’s our 3 year wedding anniversary in July and I’m looking back through our wedding photos in preparation.
I proposed in 2009. Claire had moved in with me at my parents’ house cos she was still in uni but needed a break from home, and we were definitely back together (after the on-off-on-again 2006-2008 phase).
I knew I wanted to marry her, or at least get a civil partnership, which was our only option at the time, but proposing is really SCARY so I sort of wanted to test the waters first and get a sense of how receptive she was to the idea.
Subtle I am not.
So there we are, sat on the end of our bed, talking about rental flats versus waiting and saving to buy a house, and I say, super casually (of course):
“I guess, before we get a mortgage, we should probably get married…?”
And she just looked at me for a long minute and said, rather incredulously,
“Did you just propose?!”
Now, this was a scary position to be in because if I said no, she might be too upset for me to try again, meaning I’d blown my chance forever, but if I said yes then it was the crappiest proposal in the history of the world ever.
So… I hedged my bets and said…
It’s gets better…
“But not really… but if I was… what would you say? Cos I really want to surprise you by proposing on valentine’s day only… oh crap, well, surprise!”
Of course, after we laughed about me being a dummy and the worst person at keeping secrets, Claire said yes and burst into tears of joy.
And then I said,
“But I’ve not really proposed, because you propose with a ring, this is just the pre-proposal, so you have to wait till valentine’s day.”
2 weeks later and we’re walking into H Samuel the jewellers for engagement rings.
But I kept the box and on valentine’s day I put a Haribo gummy ring inside, got down on one knee and proposed properly.
Enter more tears and hugging.
… we still ended up getting a mortgage before we got married though…